By Laura T. Coffey on Holiday Blog

  • For many transportation workers, Christmas comes a day early or a day late

    Courtesy of the Shaffer family

    Tom Shaffer, a longtime bus driver and a senior training instructor for Greyhound, estimates he's worked 15 of the past 20 Christmases. He said his wife has adapted to his absences over the years because "she knows I love what I do."

    Military service it is not: These workers expect to come home safe, and their absences are typically measured in days, not months.

    But for thousands of pilots, flight attendants, baggage handlers, bus drivers, train conductors and other transportation employees, an un-jolly reality exists: Until they attain enough seniority, many of them can expect to spend anywhere from five to 25 years working on Christmas and other major holidays.

    Faced with such an enduring buzzkill, transportation employees and their family members often get creative about when and how they celebrate. Sometimes Santa comes with great fanfare on, say, Dec. 19. Sometimes he rolls in with his reindeer (and gifts obtained at fabulous after-Christmas sales) on Dec. 28. But for many of them, Christmas consistently comes a day early or a day late — year after year after year.

    That’s the situation Tom Shaffer has learned to accept along with his wife, their two sons and their extended family members who descend each Christmas on the Shaffer home in Rockwall, Texas. A longtime Greyhound bus driver and senior training instructor, Shaffer estimates he’s worked 15 of the past 20 Christmases — and this Dec. 25 will be no exception.

    “I’ve just gotten used to it over the years,” said Shaffer, 56. “Greyhound is really, really busy during that time of year. My wife understands this is what I do and she’s grown accustomed to it and she’s accepted it. She knows I love what I do.”

    Courtesy of the Shaffer family

    Regina Shaffer, right, described her husband Tom Shaffer, left, as a "great person." "He's always so positive," she said. "I've learned a lot from him myself."

    Opening gifts at different times
    Indeed, everyone who knows Shaffer recognizes how much he loves his job and cares about his passengers. He takes great pains to make holiday bus rides cheery and upbeat.

    “I like to be cheerful with everybody,” he said. “I make it my business to say, ‘You have a merry Christmas and a most happy and prosperous New Year’s.’ ... Sometimes people sing Christmas songs on the bus.”

    Back at home, Shaffer’s family has found ways to adapt to his absence on pivotal Christmas mornings. They typically break with tradition and open special gifts at different times — sometimes on Dec. 24 before Shaffer has to leave town, or in the late afternoon or evening of Dec. 25 after he’s completed his bus route.

    “Whatever we consider to be, you know, the big gift, we always want him to be here so he can see the reactions,” said Tom Shaffer’s wife, Regina Shaffer, 43.

    Occasionally the “big gift” reveal happens late on Christmas day in front of as many as 20 members of the Shaffers’ extended family, and can result in special memories for everybody present. Last year, for instance, the Shaffers bought a telescope for their youngest son Jordan, who was 10 at the time. They were pretty confident their son, a space enthusiast, would love the gift — but his ecstatic reaction astonished everyone.

    “We didn’t wrap it — we actually hid it and then set it up when he was in the back,” Regina Shaffer recalled. “When he saw it, his eyes were so big. He was almost crying and saying, ‘Thanks, Daddy! Thanks, Daddy!’ ... There wasn’t a dry eye in this house.”

    Courtesy of the Shaffer family

    Jordan Shaffer is pictured opening Christmas presents in 2009. Jordan, who is now 11 years old, delighted his family with his reaction to the gift of a telescope last Christmas.

    Supporting, cheering fellow employees
    A number of airlines provide priority travel passes to crew members so they can have a spouse or another close family member travel with them over the holidays. That way, if they have to spend Christmas in a strange city, at least they have their nearest and dearest along for the ride.

    On an informal basis, senior airline workers will sometimes switch shifts with junior crew members who have small children. That way, the junior crew members can enjoy the Christmas morning experience at home.

    No matter what, though, many moms and dads do end up working on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. Sometimes winter weather is to blame.

    Capt. Mark Niles, a pilot for Horizon Air, recalls flying one year with a first officer who had been scheduled to make it home on Christmas Eve.

    “We got delayed due to a really bad snowstorm,” said Niles, who lives in Portland, Ore. “She was telling her young son over the phone that Santa Claus had a special arrangement with pilots and flight attendants, and he knew when they had to be gone and he would still show up on the right day. ... That was kind of hard to listen to.”

    Niles — who also serves as vice president of the Coalition of Airline Pilots Associations, an organization that represents 28,000 pilots — said he’s worked many major holidays during his 13 years with Horizon.

    “I’m fairly junior as captains go in the grand scheme of things,” Niles said. “The junior guys are flying on holidays — that’s just how it is.

    “In our case, we’ve done alternate days for Christmas, or for Thanksgiving we’ll plan to do it on a different day. Sometimes that works when you can coordinate with family, and sometimes it doesn’t. Then you just have your own little celebration with your immediate family.”

    When transportation employees do have to spend the holidays with their “work families,” they usually enjoy special meals together. Greyhound provides traditional Christmas lunches or dinners to workers, and Delta does the same thing for gate agents, ticket agents, ramp workers, baggage handlers and other employees. American Airlines said teams of employees often create potluck, grassroots holiday celebrations with their co-workers.

    Niles has fond memories of an unforgettable Thanksgiving meal he shared with fellow Horizon crew members about a decade ago.

    “A crew member actually cooked the complete meal, with all the trimmings, and brought it with them in a cooler,” he said. “We were in a hotel in Boise with nothing open around us, and this person had taken care of the whole meal for all of us!

    “It’s so great when you work with a really good crew and everybody kind of bands together for the holidays and does nice things for each other.”

    Has a work schedule ever prompted your family to celebrate the holidays in different ways or on different days? Share your stories in the comments! 

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  • Photo of baby sleeping on Santa goes viral

    Copyright Sarah Pasley

    Infant Kiptyn Pasley "meets" a very special Santa Claus for the first time in December 2011. This photo of the sleeping baby boy's encounter with St. Nick has become a holiday Internet sensation this year.

    Moms everywhere snap — and cherish — photos of their squishy, adorable babies. But sometimes, in the rarest of circumstances, a mother captures her own infant in an image so moving that it makes hundreds of thousands of people around the world gasp.

    That’s what happened to an Idaho mom named Sarah Pasley, and for the past few days she’s been stumbling around in shock because of it.

    “I can’t even believe it!” Pasley, 32, told TODAY.com. “I mean, I loved the photo, but I didn’t expect other people to be so uplifted by it.”

    Pasley’s photo shows her youngest son Kiptyn meeting Santa Claus for the first time in the middle of a crowded Boise shopping mall. She took the photo last December when Kiptyn was 8 months old and very sleepy — so sleepy, in fact, that he slumbered blissfully right on the good-natured mall Santa’s chest.

    Her friends and family loved the photo when they saw it last year, and that seemed to be the end of that. Then, about a week ago, Pasley saw that children’s clothing company Carter’s was seeking online photo submissions of kids meeting Santa for the first time. Pasley shared her beloved 2011 photo on Carter’s Facebook page.

    And then ... KA-BOOM! The image of Kiptyn and St. Nick became an Internet sensation. In about three days’ time, the photo had more than 360,000 Facebook likes and had been shared more than 50,000 times. Media outlets around the world ran the photo and provided commentary about it. Pasley began experiencing a sensation that might affect many mothers in such a situation.

    “I panicked!” she said. “I went online and actually took the picture down.”

    Courtesy Sarah Pasley

    Mom Sarah Pasley had this photo taken with baby Kiptyn last Christmas.

    Despite that, the media attention intensified more than ever — and Pasley decided to take a deep breath and let it be. She re-posted the image herself and stopped asking Carter’s to take it down.

    “I saw so many people commenting that they couldn’t find the Christmas spirit because of so many bad things happening in the world, but now they’re finding it again because of this picture,” said Pasley, a mother of three who pursues photography as a hobby. “That’s what this picture is all about to me.”

    Courtesy Sarah Pasley

    This family photo taken in December 2012 shows Sarah Pasley with her husband, Chance, and their three sons, Aidan, 12, Brennan, 10, and Kiptyn, who is now 20 months old.

    Pasley doesn’t personally know the Santa who meets hundreds of children each year at Idaho’s Boise Towne Square mall, but she adores him nonetheless. She said she never would have gotten the photo if Santa hadn’t motioned to have Kiptyn brought over to him, even though the baby had fallen fast asleep minutes before his first Santa encounter.

    “His generosity and the way he treats people has impacted my life,” Pasley said. “I get choked up just thinking about it. ... He’s Santa Claus. He truly does embody what Santa is — the magic, the wonder, the joy and the love. He’s just so special. I hope he knows that!”

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  • Discomfort and joy: This Santa loves mall, wet diapers and all

    Portland Santa

    This adorable baby is cooperating nicely with Santa Phil. Others do NOT.

    The life of a mall Santa is steeped in hopes and dreams, magic and wonder. But the jolly sorts who are drawn to this vocation soon learn that the job involves other things. Unspeakable things. Things like snot, spit, diaper leakages — and worse.

    In the line of duty, one beloved longtime Santa in Oregon’s Portland area has contracted pink eye. He’s survived encounters with terrified (read: urinating) pets. Above all, he’s learned that frightened children warrant the most trepidation.

    “We used to have a stage, with a couple of steps to get up onto the stage,” recalled 71-year-old Phil Morgan, known year-round by locals as “Santa Phil.” “We had some kids who were so scared — they’d hit the first step, hit the second step, then, bam! Lose the contents of their stomachs.”

    Other kids are screamers — and their shrieks of terror don’t match their stature. They could be rehearsing for the shower scene in “Psycho.” The key screamer demographic: 2.5- to 4.5-year-olds.

    “Sometimes they really freak out,” Santa Phil said. “They get within sight of me and MELT DOWN. It’s overwhelming to them. There’s this big guy, the suit, the lights, all the people — they just lose it.”

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    Mall Santas also must field impossible requests with kindness and tact.

    “One little girl came up to me and said she wanted me to arrange for her to do a violin recital in Carnegie Hall,” Santa Phil recalled. “I said very carefully, ‘I’ll see what I can do.’ She said, ‘If you can’t arrange it, then I’d like a pet octopus.’”

    For parents, a visit to the mall Santa is a moment for a cute photo op. But for some kids, it can be a moment of pure terror.

    Santa all year long
    Mind you, Santa Phil is a serious pro. He landed his first Santa gig back in 1958 when he was a high school senior working in the stock room at a JC Penney store.

    “Santa didn’t show and they said, ‘You! Get in the suit!’” he said. “That was the beginning of my career!”

    He balks at the notion that he “plays” Santa. In short, Santa Phil is Santa. He grooms his flowing, natural white beard all year long, and, as he puts it, he kind of has “that shape.” Even in the middle of summer, his presence tends to spark squeals and excited whispers — especially if he wears a red shirt.

    “In restaurants, little kids start freaking out with their parents because St. Nick is sitting at next table!” he said.

    He estimates he’s served as Santa on a professional basis for about 35 of the past 54 years. For a number of those years, he dazzled kids and adults at a fanciful Santaland created inside a Meier & Frank store in downtown Portland. The store became a Macy’s in 2006.

    For the first time last year, Santa Phil’s employer — Portland Santa — brought the magic outside. Portland Santa crafted a custom-built house where fans could visit with Santa Phil and his fun-loving colleague, Santa Tom, in Portland’s Pioneer Courtyard Square. Santa Phil will be based there once again this month.

    “I call this my December vacation from real life,” said Santa Phil, who spends the rest of the year working as a teacher and therapist for adults.

    Portland Santaland on Facebook

    Santa Phil and his jolly colleague — Santa Tom, pictured here — will be greeting children and adults in downtown Portland this year. They say they totally understand if kids act a bit startled.

    ‘I will do my best’
    As you might expect, the bulk of Santa Phil’s December encounters are heartfelt and hilarious. He gets requests for everything from Xboxes to American Girl dolls to elaborate family portraits featuring Chihuahuas, ferrets or pet turtles. On multiple occasions, he’s been asked to present an engagement ring to an unwitting bride-to-be.

    Many visitors love him so much they’ve become regulars. In fact, some female pals in their 60s, 70s and 80s have established a full-fledged Santa Phil tradition.

    “Every year, they go out to dinner, get a little tipsy, then come to take pictures with Santa,” Santa Phil said. “They tell me what kind of Mercedes they want — stuff like that!”

    The most energizing thing about the job is that children believe in him. As a consequence, they often open up to him.

    “I’ve had kids ask me for things for their parents because their parents are stressed out because their parents don’t have any money,” Santa Phil said.

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    See the many ways St. Nick spreads holiday cheer around the world.

    One time, two adorable girls clambered up onto Santa Phil’s lap as their dad handed him a cell phone.

    “He told me, ‘Mom’s on the other end,’” Santa Phil recalled. “’She can’t be here because she’s at home dying of cancer.’”

    Another time, years ago, a homeless woman approached him and asked to sit on his lap.

    “She didn’t smell very pleasant but she had this great, toothless smile,” Santa Phil said. “She said, ‘Santa, can you get me a safe place to stay?’ ... I said, ‘I will do my best.’ I had to let it go at that.”

    Over the decades, Santa Phil has learned how to listen and how to adapt. He knows the importance of rolling with any encounter — no matter how preposterous, how gut-wrenching or, if nervous tummies are involved, how gut-spilling.

    “My philosophy of life is that I came into this world to find joy for myself and to help people find joy for themselves,” Santa Phil said. “This is my chosen way of doing it.”

    Want to meet Santa Phil and his colleague, Santa Tom? You can visit them from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. daily through Dec. 23 and from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Dec. 24 in Pioneer Courtyard Square in downtown Portland, Ore. For details, go to PortlandSanta.com.

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  • How to deep fry your ENTIRE Thanksgiving dinner

    Macy's

    It's OK to admit how much you want to try these fried mashed potatoes.

    We here at Bites are fascinated by deep-fried foods. (OK, OK, a better term might be OBSESSED.) We've brought you stories about deep-fried cereal, deep-fried Kool-Aid balls and deep-fried butter. And, of course, at this time of year we’d be remiss if we didn't provide guidance about how to deep fry a turkey. But did you realize that you can deep fry your entire Thanksgiving dinner?

    Oh yeah, baby. It’s possible.

    This convenient guide from Macy's shows you how to deep fry mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, stuffing, green beans, apple pie and chocolate truffles. We'd advise that you pick a couple favorites without actually eating a whole meal of fried foods, lest you find yourself spending the holiday with your cardiologist. 

    Macy's

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  • Paws de deux: Therapy dogs perform 'Nutcracker'

    Diane M. Smutny / DMS Photography

    Dogs Gracie, Lizzy and Jamie played three of the six mice in the pivotal fight scene in the 2010 canine version of "The Nutcracker." (Don't worry: The production's four-legged stars are really lovers, not fighters.)

    The timeless holiday classic “The Nutcracker” doesn’t have any dialogue — and that’s just fine by Gracie the Sugar Plum Fairy, Bailey the Nutcracker Prince, Sam the Mouse King and Lily, the little looker who’s playing the role of Clara.

    Lily is a pug, Sam is a golden retriever, Bailey is a Shih Tzu and Gracie is a Sheltie. Their fellow thespians include a border collie, a cocker spaniel, a Maltese and a Chihuahua, and when they join tail-wagging forces for their canine production of “The Nutcracker,” the crowds go wild.

    “It’s a riot!” said Penny Brcic, 58, whose dog Gracie landed the role of the Sugar Plum Fairy this year. “The audience goes crazy. ... A lot of the humor behind it is that these aren’t circus dogs. They’re just our pets.”

    Some might call them pets with a higher purpose. The 29 dogs starring in the Chicago-area, canine-centric version of Tchaikovsky’s ballet are highly trained and obedient because they all work as therapy dogs. When they aren’t donning colorful costumes and rehearsing elaborate “Nutcracker” scenes, they visit wounded veterans, dementia patients, terminally ill children and kids with learning disabilities and provide them with affectionate support. The dogs have a special knack for drawing out the sullen, the angry or the disoriented, getting them to speak, walk or smile for the first time in weeks. 

    Courtesy Penny Brcich

    Even though Gracie, a Sheltie, can no longer hear at the age of 12, she's still mastered her role as the Sugar Plum Fairy in this year's canine version of "The Nutcracker."

    “Therapy dogs can reach people and comfort people in a way that humans sometimes can’t,” said Becky Jankowski, 55, program coordinator for the PAWSitive Therapy Troupe and the mastermind behind the canine “Nutcracker” production. “Psychiatrists, nurses, teachers — they can talk, talk, talk and not get through to the child or the patient. But dogs can open communication channels that never existed.”

    The power of that human-animal connection is what led to the creation of the first canine “Nutcracker” back in 2000. Jankowski thought it could be a fun way to bring some holiday cheer to sick kids living with their families at a Ronald McDonald House.

    “Our very first ‘Nutcracker’ was in a nurses’ station seating area and it was way too crowded — the nursing staff was appalled!” Jankowski recalled.

    Diane M. Smutny / DMS Photography

    After a rousing performance as Clara in 2010, Lily the pug will play the same role in this year's canine version of "The Nutcracker."

    In 2001, Jankowski and other volunteer therapy-dog owners performed the production at three locations: the Edward Hines Jr. VA Hospital, a senior center and a retirement center for nuns. The production kept growing each year and skyrocketing in popularity in the Chicago area.

    By 2004, the PAWSitive Therapy Troupe had its own training center for dogs and the show became a fundraiser for the group, with tickets sold for $5 each.

    “We sold 800 tickets in about a couple hours. We had lines down the street!” Jankowski said.

    Then came a necessary hiatus. Stars of the production were getting older, and a few beloved canines died. Jankowski and other volunteers had grown dog tired as well; it takes them about 1,000 hours to prepare for the big show.

    Diane M. Smutny / DMS Photography

    Bonnie is all set to dazzle this year as the Candy Cane Dancer, a coveted solo role.

    Six years later, they felt ready for a comeback. They staged “The Nutcracker” in 2010 at two middle school gymnasiums that held hundreds of people. All showings sold out quickly and were smash hits — but all was not blissful in the Land of Sweets. A loud hiss of static plagued the sound system at one gym, spooking a golden retriever. The humans behind the production battled exhaustion as well — so they took another year off in 2011.

    This year, though, the team is back and ready for a howling good time. They’ll put on three separate shows on Nov. 17 and 18 at a middle school gym in Downers Grove, Ill.

    “It’s still a lot of work, but this year it’s not quite as bad,” Jankowski said. “We know what we’re doing, we have all of our costumes, we have our sets. It’s mostly a matter of remembering where we all need to be.”

    While the dogs are definitely the stars of the show, they usually appear on stage with their human handlers, who range in age from their late 20s to their late 70s. A narrator — Penny Brcic — deftly interjects a tiny bit of commentary when needed to clarify the story line. The canine “Nutcracker” also features a number of wildly popular off-leash solo performances; the moment when the dog playing the sinister Mouse King dramatically lies down and plays dead tends to make audiences go bonkers.

    Diane M. Smutny / DMS Photography

    Becky Jankowski's dog Jamie played the Sugar Plum Fairy in 2010. "This year his only role is the Mouse," Jankowski said. "He has been sadly demoted, but he is happy with that, since he hates to wear costumes!"

    The dogs are trained with positive reinforcement in the form of click sounds followed by treats.

    “Lots and lots of treats, and lots and lots of praise!” Jankowski said. “After the show we open it up and the whole crowd can pet the dogs. And there are photo ops: Dogs have their costumes on, and kids can have their pictures taken with them.”

    Some “Nutcracker” dogs consistently amaze not just the strangers in the audience but their owners. Gracie, the Sheltie playing the Sugar Plum Fairy this year, can no longer hear at the age of 12.

    “Even so, she does all this through hand signals and the communication we have,” Brcic said. “It’s really not that hard for her. She’s smart and good lookin’!”

    About the show:
    The PAWSitive Therapy Troupe’s canine version of “The Nutcracker” will be performed at 1 p.m. and 4 p.m. on Saturday, Nov. 17 and at 1 p.m. on Sunday, Nov. 18 at Herrick Middle School, 4335 Middaugh Ave., Downers Grove, Ill. Two of the three performances are already sold out. To learn more about the shows or to find out how to support the year-round work of the PAWSitive Therapy Troupe, visit the group’s website by clicking here

    Want to see how they do this? Here are scenes from the PAWSitive Therapy Troupe's canine version of "The Nutcracker," which benefits the troupe's animal-assisted therapy work in Chicago's suburbs.

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